Rekindling Passion: Navigating Intimacy & Desire in Midlife with Rachael Goodman
“The biggest misconception is, ‘Oh my God, I hit 40, and I’m done. My time is over. I peaked in my 20s.’ But that’s completely wrong—a total misconception. The best is yet to come,” says Rachael Goodman, a registered psychotherapist and certified sex and couples counselor at Level Up, who specializes in intimacy and sexual relationships for women in midlife.
In this episode, she joins Andrea Hecht to talk about how intimacy evolves as we age, exploring shifts in libido, body image, and emotional connection.
Rachael points out how open communication is essential to keeping a relationship fulfilling. She explains that intimacy is not just about the physical—it’s about emotional closeness and understanding, too. What can couples do to keep that connection strong? Rachael shares actionable tips, from trying new ways to connect intimately to fostering an environment that encourages closeness and trust.
Rachael and Andrea encourage listeners to embrace their sexuality and recognize that intimacy, when nurtured, continues to evolve and grow. Tune in to be reminded of how midlife can be a time for deeper connection and greater pleasure!
Quotes
“We want to enjoy ourselves, and part of that is pleasure. The women I typically work with have often lost themselves and want to rediscover who they are beyond motherhood or who they were in the past. That journey involves understanding their pleasure points, which may have changed over time. And those changes can happen because our bodies are changing.” (05:53 | Andrea Hecht)
“The reality is, as individuals and as couples, we often talk about our finances, our careers, or what’s happening in our day-to-day, but we rarely take the time to talk about sex—what we want, what’s happening, how it’s making us feel, or what we’re missing.” (07:19 | Rachael Goodman)
“The biggest misconception is, ‘Oh my God, I hit 40, and I’m done. My time is over. I peaked in my 20s.’ But that’s completely wrong—a total misconception. The best is yet to come.” (14:16 | Rachael Goodman)
“I think it’s important to highlight that it all goes back to communication. That’s always something people struggle with, whether it’s talking about finances, the kids, or expressing what you truly want. It’s so important for someone to understand. For example, if talking about work or asking about their day is their love language, or maybe someone else needs little gestures like a kiss throughout the day. But really, it comes down to understanding that communication piece.” (20:37 | Andrea Hecht)
Links
Connect with Rachael Goodman of Level Up Therapy:
Website: https://leveluptherapy.ca
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/levelup_therapy
Connect with your host, Andrea Hecht:
Connect with Andrea on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fullyinformedlifecoaching
Website: https://www.fullyinformedlife.com
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