Reclaim Your Style: How to Rewrite Your Closet Story in Midlife
As we step into midlife, we often find ourselves rewriting various chapters of our story—from relationships to careers, and even to something as personal as our closets. Clothes aren’t just garments; they tell a story about who we are, how we see ourselves, and what we believe we deserve. But what happens when that story no longer fits?
In this episode of The Next ChaptHER, I sat down with Laura P. Barker, a closet curator and personal stylist for women over 40. Laura shared her inspiring journey from feeling frustrated about finding clothes that suited her body and lifestyle to empowering women to reclaim their confidence through personal style. Here are the transformative lessons she shared about rewriting your closet story.
1. Start with a Mindset Shift
So often, the clothes we keep are tied to outdated beliefs or emotions. Whether it’s jeans you haven’t worn in years or outfits that no longer feel like “you,” these pieces may be holding you back from stepping into your next chapter with confidence.
Laura’s Advice: “Ask yourself: Does this reflect the woman I am today—or the one I’m becoming?” Let go of anything that doesn’t align with the version of yourself you want to embrace.
2. Focus on Fit, Not Size
Laura emphasized that size is just a number, and the way clothes fit and feel is far more important. She shared how she’s helped women of all shapes and sizes find joy in well-constructed, quality clothing that flatters their unique bodies.
Takeaway: Stop worrying about the number on the tag and start paying attention to how clothes make you feel. Confidence begins with comfort and authenticity.
3. Build a Foundation with Versatile Staples
While trends can be fun, Laura encouraged building a wardrobe that starts with high-quality staples. Items like tailored blazers, well-fitting jeans, and versatile tops can serve as the foundation for countless looks, allowing you to mix and match with ease.
Laura’s Tip: Invest in a few timeless pieces that you love, and then add pops of personality with accessories or trendier items.
4. Rewrite the Rules About What You “Can” Wear
Laura shared her own experience of breaking free from the idea that certain styles or trends were “off-limits” because of her age, height, or body type. Her philosophy? If it makes you feel amazing, wear it.
Takeaway: Fashion is about self-expression, not following arbitrary rules. Challenge the limiting beliefs that might be keeping you from experimenting with styles you love.
5. Your Closet Should Reflect Your Life
Laura emphasized the importance of curating a wardrobe that supports your current lifestyle. Whether you’re juggling work and parenting, pursuing new passions, or enjoying more time for yourself, your clothes should enhance—not complicate—your life.
Action Step: Take inventory of your wardrobe and identify gaps that could make your day-to-day dressing easier and more joyful.
The Closet as a Reflection of Your Story
Your closet isn’t just a space for clothes—it’s a reflection of your personal journey. As Laura said during our conversation, “When you let go of the pieces that no longer serve you, you create space for the woman you’re becoming.”
Ready to Reclaim Your Style?
If you’re feeling stuck in a wardrobe rut or overwhelmed by the thought of a closet refresh, take the first step. Follow Laura P. Barker (@[insert handle]) for more styling tips, and check out the full episode of The Next ChaptHER for even more insights.
P.S. Want to dive deeper into redefining your next chapter? Download my free guide, Hit Play on Joy: The No-BS Playlist to Rewrite Your Inner Music, and start your journey today.